Love Poems

Love is one of the most common themes in the history of poetry (and mankind), and for good reason: it is one of the greatest and most basic human conditions. Just about everyone has been loved, loved someone, and has been in love. Naturally, poets have written a great deal on the subject.

If you’re feeling down-and-out about love, we’ve got you covered with a selection of poems about heartbreak, heart ache, and general misery due to love.

So whether you’re looking for a poem with which to woo someone, need a poem to send to your valentine, or are feeling blue and need some cheer (misery loves company, after all), then dive in with these suggested love poems.

LOVE PURPOSE

1. CONDITIONAL LOVE

Conditional love is like a kind of bargain with the Universe to give you self-love if you "take care of" people. Tends to make others responsible for your needs and happiness. Includes the "Care-taker ", "Good Prostitute", "Reluctant Martyr", "Rescuer ", stances in life. Wants, and to a degree does get, rewards and approval from others. There are secondary gains in this position, though the price paid is being less than one's True Self.

Possessive, holds on when the other grows or heals...and then needs another needy partner. Expectations++. "I will love you (=take care of you) if you are good, clever, white, black, richer, poorer, sicker or more well than me, male, female...etc..." "I love you and if you love me you must promise me...." etc. Can easily feel victimized/angry again when the conditions are not met. Can make the one loved in this way feel very resentful ("hostile dependency"). Dependent on the approval of others.

"Social Activist Level I" ..."Crusader" ("I will fight for peace, - even if I have to kill or assassinate to get it"). Still angry with personalities and more focused on those than upon issues, therefore oversimplifies. "I will love you if you adopt my point of view, the "right" political persuasion....or do what my parents did - or did not do" Easily falls prey to anger or fear, or feels victimized if frustrated. Can explode with frustration and become "Perpetrator" or "Terrorist"; or feel powerless - "Doormat" or "Victim".

This level corresponds in psychosynthesis to the level of the subpersonalities. There is a tendency to "love" only the perceived "victim" in any situation, to identify with the victim, and to hate the perceived "oppressor". Unable to see that the oppressor is also suffering, but in a different way and expressing their suffering differently. Both the victim and the oppressor are giving out a cry for love and for their unmet needs to be met. There is a tendency for one operating at this level to hold others responsible for their happiness (and therefore unhappiness!), and at the same time push love or help away when it has been offered. This often leads to burn-out, or a win-lose situation, in which all are losers. I call this the Bermuda Triangle (see diagram).

2. TOUGH LOVE

Tough Love is less dependent upon others for a sense of self-worth and self-esteem. A more skilled Care-giver. Self-love and self-esteem is enough to take more positive action. Recognizes own needs and is willing to take responsibility for getting them met. Can confront caringly. "I love myself enough to love you and tell you the truth"... "I can serve you without manipulations".

Can also receive love with openness, does not push it away when it is offered.

"Social Activist Level II", Can separate people from their actions, more focused on issues than on personalities. "We are separate but equal" "I give you responsibility for your actions, the way you lead your life, and I take full responsibility for mine". Can negotiate assertively - i.e. firmly, but without putting the other party down .

This level corresponds more to the level of the psyche called in psychosynthesis, the personal self. There is more discrimination, will, love and energy.

3. UNCONDITIONAL LOVE:-

It is the exploration of what this might be that we do from now on in this seminar - and in life after the seminar! Its mystery and depth cannot be explained. Yet we all recognize its presence and its magic. It reveals itself through joy, which can even increase in adversity. We can learn to see ourselves as moving towards becoming able to express it ever more fully. We can learn the steps in developing this quality, which is still in the process of evolving or revealing itself.

Unconditional love is enlarging the self, and an act of will. It is not a feeling or an emotional reaction. Think of the difference between falling in love, and growing in love through all difficulties and conflicts. Unconditional love is an act of mental and spiritual will, it cannot and does not take place upon the emotional level, which is where the problems first register. Unconditional love is extending oneself in the service of the spiritual growth of oneself and/or another, independently of reward or the behavior of others.

Makeover Madness Happy In Your Own Skin

Makeover madness, plastic surgery, and being happy with who you are.

I just saw something really sad.

I was flipping through channels, trying to see if there was anything on, and I landed on what I found out was MTV. The show was "I Want to Look Like Someone Famous", or something like that.

I've noticed that there has been an onslaught of such shows.

Everyday people going under the knife to look like someone else. Not subtle little changes like hair coloring or whitening their smile, but drastic makeover changes like chin implants, nose jobs and complete body changes all in the course of a few weeks to look like someone else.

These are perfectly acceptable looking people wanting to look like someone famous.

They are so uncomfortable with who they are, with being in their own skin, that they are willing to put their lives and faces in danger for a makeover to "become" someone else.

I look at the stretch marks forming across my nine-month expectant-mother frame and think how with just a flick of a laser they could be gone.

I look at the wrinkles forming around my eyes and mouth and think how just a few injections of Botox could rid me of those nuisances.

But I realize what those marks are. Reminders of my life experiences!

I can point to which stretch marks are from Zach and which ones are from Selah, due to the different ways I've carried each. The wrinkles around my eyes and mouth are reminders of all the laughs and giggles I've had in my life.

I wouldn't change a one.

Look at your imperfections for what they are, YOURS. You are you, individual and beautiful.

I don't want to look like someone who is famous this year for their 15 minutes. Ten years from now, no one will know who they are, much less who you look like.

I don't want my children to think that their value is found in someone else's fame. They are loved for who they are. They are special for who they are. A makeover will not make them more special.

I heard it best put by the man himself, Fred Rogers. People are like fish. Everyone is fancy in their own way; some on the inside and some on the outside. You just need to figure out how you're fancy and know that no one can take that away from you, unless you let them.

With words of wisdom like that, perhaps in this makeover crazed world we would all do well to spend a little time in "Mr. Rogers Neighborhood".

God! What do I do now?

I want back, those good old days
When I was happy in my own ways

And now when it all 'really' mattered
I can’t see my dreams being shattered
I try damn hard, but cannot be brave
Feel like a loser, dug my own grave

Curse my fate I just woke up now
Got to pull myself up now somehow
I realise the many mistakes that I made
For those were the ones, for which I paid

I’ve all through lived in my little dreams
To think beyond it now, wiser it seems
I can’t just brush away all my pains
It still hurts, cos the memory remains

Fate’s playing his old cruel joke
I can’t laugh, I’m already broke
It is not easy to bring myself to blame
But I’m being consumed by this flame

Father Time give me another chance
I ‘ll give the past one more glance
I long to make changes to my past
I want happiness that can forever last

It all happened fast, I don’t know how
I’m despairing, god what do I do now?

An Invitation to a Birthday Party

My daughter's twelfth-birthday party was a nightmare, a social train wreck. It was, of course, a sleepover. I still have the photos of the group at breakfast, seated around the dining room table: sluggish, cranky, ready to go home. And I was ready for them to go. There had been moments during the party the night before when I wanted to send them all packing instantly. "Get out," I wanted to shout. "You're all mean! You're all horrible."

My daughter, Joanna, now sixteen, has long since forgotten that party. It's ancient history to her; she has moved on with her life. When I reminded her recently of the events of that night, she gave a shrug of acknowledgment and went back to what she was doing. I can't forget it that easily.

Let me set the scene-time, place, and characters-for the drama. Joanna's birthday is in late June. That's a good month for birthdays, close enough to the end of the school year so that most of the kids you might want to invite are still around town. At the same time, late-June birthdays don't conflict with the inevitable round of end-of-school events. Best of all, the weather is usually good, which means we can hold a swimming party in our backyard, which borders a lake. When Joanna was nine or ten years old all we needed to throw a successful birthday party were some water balloons, a dock for kids to jump off, and of course cake and ice cream. But parties for twelve-year-olds are a lot more complicated than swimming and cake.

My wife, Theresa, and I had a sense of foreboding about the party when we saw Joanna's guest list. That year our daughter was leaving her public school to go to a private school that offered extensive support for her reading difficulties. Her departure made it inevitable that she was going to lose some friends. Her final social gesture as she left her public school was to invite the entire cool group from her class to her birthday party.

One girl who came to the party was Maria. Maria, like Joanna, was a little different from the mainstream of the class. Her mother was Irish Catholic, her father Korean. They represented an unusual diversity in the town. Maria wasn't absolutely at the center of the cool group either, but she was eager to be, and we had sensed in the past that Maria felt competitive with Joanna. Therein lies the tale of the birthday party.

If you are spending time looking for ways in which you can improve your relationship, you obviously love and care for your partner and what you want to have together.

Start your changes by celebrating your relationship. Celebrate the joy of having met that one very special person, find joy in the wonderful things that 'click' about you and your spouse and celebrate what you are committed to building together. You can celebrate any day at any time and you can also celebrate by surprising your spouse.

On your next birthday, celebrate your spouse and how he or she makes your existence better by presenting him or her with a gift. He or she will be so surprised that you might see a tear or two of joy fall.

Start paying attention to what he or she likes. Really listen to what your spouse says, pay attention to the items he or she says he would like to try someday and get it for them. Don't give it to your spouse immediately and put the item away for a period of time. The period of time is up to you- it could be a week or it could be a month. When you think that he or she will no longer remember discussing the item with you, present it to them as a gift.

Take over a chore or daily task for your spouse without letting them know about your intentions. Mow the lawn, washing the car, cook and clean up from meals or clean the house- do something substantial for him or her. If you find that he or she loved having the break from a particular task, do it over and over again as often as you can.

One of the most recognizable symbols of a celebration is a balloon! Fill your car with balloons and take them home to him or her. Fill the living room before he or she gets home from work. Make sure you have some balloons marked with your names in hearts on them and some should have personal messages written as well. Begin the celebration of your love today.

Start celebrating each major and minor holiday with your spouse. Begin with New Year's Eve and do it big. Go to New York City and go to Times Square if that's as big as you can think! Valentine's Day should be done as lavishly as possible. On the Fourth of July, plan to attend the most extravagant fireworks display you can find or plan on making fireworks of your own at home. Always celebrate each other's birthdays and do it with flair. Your Anniversary should be a special day and celebrated with an expensive bottle of your favorite drink. Get dressed up on Halloween as your favorite fantasy characters and role-play for the entire evening. Celebrate any and every day you want by staying home from work and playing in bed. Celebrate as often of infrequently as you want to, but make sure you take the time to play, surprise each other and celebrate your relationship.

Wedding Speeches

I would like to cover every aspect of this topic. In order to keep things short I have only included the major topics detailed as good as possible.

A marriage is a time of joyousness and laughter, and there is no better way to express this than through a wedding speech. Many people find that having to give a speech is akin to upright on the ledge of a 40 story construction with nothing between you and the ground some four hundred or so feet below. However, if handled the right way marriage speeches need not be the machine of torment that we expect it to be.

And this applies not only to the person who has to say the speech, but also to the speaker’s audience, the mediocre captive guests. If you have a good speech in hand, and are somewhat surefooted of your bringing of the speech, you can turn a night – or day – of dreary wedding speeches into something to be marveled at and enjoyed for years to come.

Of course, this is where the bug comes in. To begin with most people find it difficult to get down on paper a speech that is truly good. And for those of us who find ourselves able to write a midway properly marriage speech, most of the time we will write it in such a way that it doesn't sound like something that would come out of our mouths – thereby wrecking a perfectly good delivery even before you get to it.

There are n-ways to circumvent this, like Using speech writing software, or plain and merely Taking a ready prepared speech off the internet, but there is a better method and this involves Taking on the services of professional person writers who have experience in authorship wedding speeches.

For those of us who will resort to this method to get a great speech in our hands, the professional person writers will be able to give you a few first drafts of marriage speeches for you to opt from, whereat you can then decide on a manner that you like for you own wedding speech.

Once you have the wedding speech in your hands, the next step to devising the sure everybody at the marriage enjoys at lowest one of the wedding speeches, is to make sure that you either practice your speech until you’re easy with it, or you go through it a pair of times to familiarise yourself with it.

You can even jot down a few notes, rather on the back of a palm sized card. You will then be able to reference back to these crucial points to make sure that your speech is staying on track.

And if the unthinkable happens and you have to change your speech more or less to suit the other wedding speeches of the moment, organize beforehand with confidence. You have the power to give a good speech, and deep down you know it... for more information on this topic, please check our web site by following our link below...

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