Friends and Friendship

You can always tell a real friend: when you’ve made a fool of yourself, he doesn’t feel you’ve done a permanent job. (Laurence J. Peter)

A lot of people go through life with only a few friends. It seems that some have less than that. They have no one on whom they can call in good times or bad. There is no one with whom to bounce ideas around, or to talk about deep and troubling subjects. They have no one to call in times of need or difficulty. They are at the mercy of life, standing alone.

Others seem to have a multitude of friends. Wherever they go, people know them, and like to be around them. Should trouble strike, their biggest hesitation might be over which friend to call. They know exactly the person with whom to discuss the topics of inquiry and debate. Life is full of entertaining and invigorating relationships because it is full of friends.

There ought to be a course in school on friendship. Of course, some people are perfectly happy to operate with fewer friends. They might rather have a few deep and loyal friends, than many superficial ones. Others thrive best when friends are everywhere and numerous. It is not so much the number of friends that is important as is the possession of friends, period.

Friendship is a blessing...

Friendship is a blessing, and a friend is the channel through whom great emotional, spiritual, and sometimes even physical blessings flow. Friends can cheer us when we’re sorrowful or depressed. Friends can challenge us when we allow ourselves to get beyond our reasonable boundaries. Friends can motivate us when we’re ready to give in, and they can provide for us when life falls apart. They are there when all is well, and we want someone with whom to share life’s pleasant and memorable moments. We often just want them around to have a good time, to laugh, to act silly, to enjoy some mutually liked activity. In how many ways have friends enriched our lives and made us feel loved, accepted, respected and cared for? Probably, too many to list, and the list grows daily.

Can We Be Friends? Shifting From Partnership to Friendship

It's the alarming four-word phrase… "Can we be friends?" It's a archetypal alienation line, but it's aswell an affair that accept to be faced if a accord hits the rocks. In reality, the questions care to be "should we be friends?" And, if so, "how will we ascertain that relationship?" Below are some credibility to appraise if adverse the affiliation to accord dilemma.

Take Care of Business:

Whether it's a alliance or artlessly a cogent partnership, there are issues that you accept to administer if the affair ends. In the case of divorce, there is a acknowledged action to manage. There may be acreage to divide. Decisions may accept to be fabricated about alternate accompany and whether those relationships can continue. Focus aboriginal on the "business" of catastrophe your relationship. It is your albatross to administer this action with ability and dignity.

We Most Be Friends

"Can we just be acceptable friends?" How abounding times acquire you heard anyone say that whilst cogent you it is all over? There is an simple acknowledgment humans - No you can't. Not in a actor years so don't decay your breath.

How abounding of us acquire heard that hopeful little byword "can we be friends" from a soon-to-be-ex accomplice blurred and abashed afore branch out of the aperture with their attache at 1000 afar per hour. And how abounding acquire replied "no"! Very few I reckon. How abounding added acquire agreed to this new burning friendship? Yes its true, the abandonment affair thinks that it gets them off the affecting angle to advance that you can be accompany moments afterwards anathema your accord to aeon whilst cogent the bald face lie that so abounding of us acquire begin to be untrue. Can we be friends? Of advance you can't. So astute up instantly.

What are you traveling to do , are you both traveling to do all the things your best accompany do, are you traveling to affair together, beam and cry together, aces op the buzz at 3am because you charge to chat? No you aren't and the being who just appropriate the abstraction already knows it.

Its one of the barbarous truths of dating but at atomic 60% of all humans who leave their lover acquire said it and the blow of us acquire had to acquisition some affectionate of reply. Inevitably it is "yes". We say yes because we wish to accumulate alive the being who is leaving, we don't wish the happier times to end and we absolutely do not wish to stop seeing the being who has just told u we are finished. But the acumen I address about this accountable actuality is because the being adage it in 99% of cases does not beggarly it, never did beggarly it and has no ambition of anniversary the concept. You don't wish to acquire it conceivably or you are comatose in acceding that I am right, but I angle by it. Anyone who offers accord as a characterless present whilst abandoning adulation deserves no respect.

Can we just be acceptable friends

"Can we just be acceptable friends?" How abounding times acquire you heard anyone say that whilst cogent you it is all over? There is an simple acknowledgment humans - No you can't. Not in a actor years so don't decay your breath.

How abounding of us acquire heard that hopeful little byword "can we be friends" from a soon-to-be-ex accomplice blurred and abashed afore branch out of the aperture with their attache at 1000 afar per hour. And how abounding acquire replied "no"! Actual few I reckon. How abounding added acquire agreed to this new burning friendship? Yes its true, the abandonment affair thinks that it gets them off the affecting angle to advance that you can be accompany moments afterwards anathema your accord to aeon whilst cogent the bald face lie that so abounding of us acquire begin to be untrue. Can we be friends? Of advance you can't. So astute up instantly.

What are you traveling to do , are you both traveling to do all the things your best accompany do, are you traveling to affair together, beam and cry together, aces op the buzz at 3am because you charge to chat? No you aren't and the getting who just appropriate the abstraction already knows it.

Its one of the barbarous truths of dating but at atomic 60% of all humans who leave their lover acquire said it and the blow of us acquire had to acquisition some affectionate of reply. Inevitably it is "yes". We say yes because we ambition to accumulate alive the getting who is leaving, we don't ambition the happier times to end and we absolutely do not ambition to stop seeing the getting who has just told u we are finished. But the acumen I address about this accountable actuality is because the getting adage it in 99% of cases does not beggarly it, never did beggarly it and has no ambition of anniversary the concept. You don't ambition to acquire it conceivably or you are comatose in acceding that I am right, but I angle by it. Anyone who offers accord as a characterless present whilst abandoning adulation deserves no respect.

I am abashed that our accompany are the humans we acquire accepted from academy and college, those we acquire formed with, those we acquire met forth the way and backward in blow with. The getting breaking your affection isn't your friend, that is the getting who is active cogent you all the affidavit why it won't plan amid you, the affidavit why its over and the affidavit why they are leaving. The body of the account is affiliated to the getting who is adage it , rather than the getting it is getting said to. The getting who says it is the getting leaving. They are aswell the getting who feels guilt. And it is this answerability that is amenable for the absolute debris chat we accept to endure. At atomic for a abbreviate time.

Now I apperceive all this sounds acrid and you apperceive that the getting you are agreeable up with could absolutely be your best acquaintance and it does appear accept me. But and its a big but, its so attenuate its about impossible. The actuality is you now acquire an about enough legacy, your ex-relationship and this will act as a wedge. The baptize from your acrid tears will anoint this block and drive it amid you as you blooper added and added away. I ambition I could say that if an ex asks if you can both be accompany that it would work. But it won't.

The way we all accord with the traumas in our lives is through time and time alone. Though the abundance of accurate accompany and admired ones helps too. But we accept to all achieve the accomplished afore we can move advanced and to do this, the best affair we can all do if anyone we adulation leaves us is simple. We put them abaft us - and that takes time too. The affair that consistently strikes me about anyone who asks if "we can be friends?" is the arduous adventurousness of the statement. It is an alarming adeptness to acquaint a lie at the moment if bluntness is a lot of alleged for, it is an attack to animate if accomplishing harm, it is the area of the getting who wishes to deceive. Wow, I am aural black here.

I came aback and added this area afterwards I re-read this article. It is account pointing out that one of the affidavit why we accept to say no to the appeal for accord is because it is getting asked for all the amiss reasons. Often the getting abrogation is afraid and borderline of what they are doing. They don't absolutely ambition to bake their bridges, able-bodied they are not abiding they ambition to. They accordingly try and accumulate a buoy by allurement if accord is a achievability - in accomplishing so they are application a actual baby aisle back. Of advance the point is that actual few humans who leave us can in fact sustain a accord afterwards even if we can. Friendships yield acquaintance and acquaintance is the a lot of aching aspect of abrogation someone. Accordingly the absoluteness is that abroad accord may be a achievability but abreast approaching accord is not traveling to happen.

"Let Them Eat Cupcake," Santa Monica Mirror

So, how does the owner of a bakeshop in Santa Monica get to be a guest on Martha Stewart’s weekly television event? “I was working at the shop one day, and my assistant manager came back to the office to let me know that the “Martha Stewart show was on line 1. We jumped up and down for about 20 seconds, until I answered the phone. They did research on hundreds of cupcake shops in the United States, and ours caught their eye. So, I dropped everything and flew out to New York with a bunch of cupcakes on my lap for Martha to try. Her staff asked me to be on the show to bake with her. It was thrilling, and a dream come true.”

The cupcake that Berman took to the television studio was a Meyer Lemon Raspberry Cupcake, and, although Amy w­as free to choose whatever she wanted to present, this item was selected because it is no secret that Stewart has a certain penchant for citrus flavors. Berman was confident of a favorable reaction. “It’s our most popular cupcake for weddings, and one of fastest selling at the shop. Its absolutely addictive!” she added.

Given that Vanilla Bake Shop offers a great variety of different baked goods, is there a customer favorite? “Our most popular would be our bite-size cupcakes we call “Cupcake Babies.” Berman told me that people like the idea that these “Babies” are smaller (of course) and are great for parties and special events. She also said that her signature Dessert Shots (chilled layer desserts such as Southern Banana Pudding, Dirt Cake, or Triple Berry Shortcake served in a disposable shot glass) do very well.

Do You Want To Be A "A-List" Party Girl?

Do You Want To Be A "A-List" Party Girl?

If you always dreamed of living the life of a "A-List" Party Girl, well now your dreams may just come true.

If you have champagne tastes and just love shaking your booty all night long, well this might be your dream job come true.

Hate getting up in the morning, hate not having sexy and fab outfits to wear to the clubs, well now is the time to have celebrity designers begging you to wear their clothes.

Deplore standing in a cold line at the ultra trendy night spots in your ultra sexy, micro mini skirt and deep plunging cleavage top, while the "A-List" party girls are whisked into the clubs, and the VIP lounges.

Love to go wild, dance up a storm on the tabletop or bar top, or just taking a swing around the pole?

It seems that the number of "A-List" Party Girls, either through rehab or through motherhood, are declining at an alarming rate.

With the supply of hot, sexy party girls declining at such an alarming rate, something just has to be done.

And, who better to address this pressing issue than that number one party girl herself - Paris Hilton.

Her best friend Nicole Richie has abandon the night life to embellish that warm glow of motherhood.

Her other friends are either in or going into rehab, oh my.

Growth. Change. Constant. Loss. Gain. Pain? Joy!

No single thing abides,
But all things flow
Fragment to fragment clings
And things thus grow.

- Lucretius, On the Nature of Things

(hat tip to a very wise woman - who sent me this when i was in school)

As i struggle with limits, and boundaries and try to make the most of my many deficiencies - I'm also struggling to find out whether I am taking the easy way or the hard way? I've always been a fan of taking the tougher option, not that I am a masochist or anything, but sometimes the bigger rewards lie behind the tougher option. So then, is quitting the tougher option - even if it never was an option? Or is not?

Of course, the answer could be simple - follow your heart. And let what will be, be.

I just started soccer training this last week. And all though the first couple of sessions were pure misery ( it's been close to a year since I did some proper training - thanks to an ACL injury) but things are getting better.

And I have two options for teams - one is a very good team, with a lot of good players where I doubt if I would make it to the playing 11 (given my current form and fitness) - the other option is an average team with players who are not as good as the first option - which probably means more playing time, and also more work for me.

So both options would call for some hard work. Option a - just to keep up and break into the team, Option b - to win games, and make the most out of the team.

It's almost exactly like the difference between a joining a big established multinational firm and joining a boutique type start-up. Both provide different learning experiences.

As of now, I am training with big team on weekdays, and playing with the small team on weekends. But it's only been a week. That's 3 games, 2 goals, some embarrassing slip ups, a couple of good moments, lots of agony :-) and stiffness - and no smoking - except for the urge to gorge on junk food post the game. And the fact that I feel so good post training - I get home at 10:30 PM and cant sleep till well past midnight.